When the dust settles...

... there is hurt. But there's also hope, i think, and less stress.

i worry that there's been a difference in understanding, knowing that "serving the family" does not include a D/s relationship with me but not knowing if it was part of the downfall.

At least there was some ownership and self-realization too, from what it sounds like. As a wise man said recently, i can't control if they stay or go; i can just wish them well and offer to stay in contact. At this point, though, i'm sure i'm the last person they want to have anything to do with. Sigh. That's their choice too - out of my control.